Going Out Alone

It’s always tough to get people to understand why I like to venture out alone. This is something I try to do at least 3 times per month and usually achieve at least once, and it is beyond crucial for my sanity.

Back in college, when I was going through friend group shakeups and feeling disillusioned by the people I thought I knew, I went out on a whim to a local drum n bass night. I wasn’t into this type of music (yet) but it was the only thing going on that night that I was aware of. Still living with my parents at that point, I just needed a place to get out and be on my own so much that my desire to just go outweighed my terror at not knowing anyone there.

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Perhaps it had something to do with the fact that the music ended up being totally up my alley, or a kind individual striking up conversation with me without making me feel overwhelmed at the idea of keeping the conversation going…. but I had a great time. I’d return weekly (only missing a handful of these thursdays) for the next 6 or so months to get more of it!

Nowadays, though I love sharing the scene and experiences with friends, I still try to carve out a night here and there for me to “do me” as they say. Some nights, I come back having reconnected with a few acquaintances that I’ve always thought highly of. Some nights, I come back having exchanged info with some future friends that I happened to hit it off with. Some nights, I simply hang out in the back corner and take in my surroundings and enjoy the environment that I’m in.

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It’s a commonly accepted idea that introverts need to engage in some sort of activity to “recharge” from all of the social interaction from their daily life. Hell, it’s a point that Quiet, a book that taught me how to function in a world full of extroverts, drove home. I had no idea that my activity would be surrounding myself with a bunch of people I don’t know and enjoying the sounds around me. And I wouldn’t change a thing about it.

 

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